As average teenagers, dating and love seem to be common factors for all. Though romance comes with fulfilling memories, learning experiences, and opportunities, heartbreak always seems to linger nearby. So, the question remains, when should you let go of the person you once loved so abundantly?
Letting go is a complexity of relationships. Sometimes forced by unfortunate circumstances beyond our control, and in some cases a choice we struggle to make, letting go seems to endure the toughest moments, no matter the situation. If there’s still hope, love, or chance, how can someone walk away from a connection so easily?
While letting go is often seen as simply “moving on,” to me, letting go is seen as a final act of love. Recognizing your mistakes, wrongdoings, and in all, acknowledging your role in the heartbreak leads to acceptance and peace of mind. Though we may not accept the idea of truly being done with our person, letting go isn’t only suitable for us; it’s healthy. Moving on and growing outside of a relationship is often not a sign of weakness but a sign of emotional maturity and growth.
To let go, in its own way, is to love. Accepting that we might not be the best for our person takes courage and spirit. If we’ve caused so much pain, heartbreak, and suffering to someone we care so deeply about, why continue the cycle? Lingering with the ideas of what could have been only leads to great pain and the deepening of our wounds. To me, letting go isn’t the loss of hope, but rather the recognition of welcoming our person with new beginnings that might no longer include us.
Loving someone can be painful, and sometimes, in ways, the final act of love isn’t always pretty, though it allows us to begin a new journey for both ourselves and our significant other. Moving on doesn’t erase the memories and the feelings of what once was; it instead acknowledges that we might not always be the best for someone, bringing us to the dawning of what’s to come.
