The Unpredictability of Your First Love
By Donna Rubio
First love should feel like a fresh spring day. First love should feel like the climax in a romcom. It should feel like the falling leaves at the end of October. I must disclaim, my definition of first love is not the same as the one you’ll find on Google. To me, first love means an insuperable memory of the time you shared with someone you deeply cared for. First love is the limited knowledge of it, and yet, the whole world it seems to be.
First love is not a child’s liking for their classmate. A crush, too, does not compare to what love could feel like. I don’t think that love comes as easily as a crush does. It is one of those things that comes once in a very long time. If I was to say, it only comes twice in your life, the first and the last. As I see it, however, your first love is more significant than your last because it is what establishes your outlook on love.
As you grow and are exposed to love, you begin to wonder what love could be. It is only until your first love that you experience what you tried to understand for so long. This stage in life is like seeing the world through rose-colored glasses. The core memories created at the time, the euphoric feeling of thinking that you have figured life out is what makes your first love so significant. The beauty of living in what seems to be your eternal bliss is the magic of your first love.
However, as the name suggests, it is your first, and certainly not your last love in most cases. Like a tree’s falling leaves, there is a dark beauty in the heartbreak that the end of your first love brings.
Your first love, contrary to your last love or any crush or relationship in between, will always be the most significant. Not one thing in life can grant you the same results every time, except perhaps, an experiment. The trial run is like your first love with its genuineness and unexpected occurrence filled with hope and flaws. The relationships and last love are like an experiment that will never compare to the excitement of not knowing what to expect. It will become something that you are acquainted with.
When you grow old it is only the memory of those moments filled with immature talks and sporadic feelings of excitement from your youth that tell you how far you’ve come along since then.
Your Destined Last Love
By Nelly Rubio
Your last love is defined by the person that you love unconditionally and who loves you so greatly that all of your previous relationships turn trivial.
Meeting your last love is the world conspiring in your favor and meeting who you are destined to be with regardless of the adversities. Without seeking a relationship or a partner, they come at a point in your life when you are prepared to be with someone for the rest of your life. All of your previous relationships should not be perceived as mistakes. Those relationships were meant to happen in order to meet the person that would become your last love.
Although it might take you years to find your partner, it’s the fact that you met them that shows the significance of your last love. If you would have met them when you were young and immature, you wouldn’t have built the foundation to stay with that person and be with them for the entirety of your lifetime.
You have a more significant comprehension of what love is and feels like; that’s what makes your last love more pure than your first love. Your first love is innocent rather than pure. In the innocence that comes with your first love, there is a lack of understanding of what love actually is. Adrenaline is the motor of your first love, nonetheless, adrenaline can only propell a relationship so far.
Your last love shows you that you don’t have to pour every ounce of yourself into a relationship to make it work. When two people are meant to be together, their paths will inevitably meet at the most unexpected of times.
Some may say love is something “that comes once in a very long time”, it truly only happens once in a lifetime. The partner you choose to be with for the rest of your life is the person that you idealized in your previous relationships, including your first love.
Your first love is a bitter-sweet experience, (more bitter than sweet) and although you are able to learn a lot of things from it, it’s just that, a learning experience. Your last love shows you that that love does not always lead to getting hurt. In the end, your previous relationships become building blocks to meet the person that despite their flaws, you would welcome and love in every lifetime.
