Big Marriage, Small Wedding
By MARIAH LOPEZ
Just picture it, like the millions of movies you’ve ever seen, the six year old little girl playing pretend wedding. Spending all of their youth obsessing and fantasizing over the day that everyone tells us will be the best day of our entire lives. I can honestly say I’ve never been that girl. I know right? Shocker! Unlike every other girl, I don’t have a Pinterest board dedicated to my future wedding. You must be thinking, wow, who hurt her? Well, let me explain.
First of all, I promise I’m not heartless. As a little girl I dreamt about something too. I dreamt about growing up, falling hopelessly in love with the perfect boy. I dreamt about being married and all that comes along with that, not simply just the wedding day. I think many people get caught up with this picture perfect image of what their wedding day will look like, and none of the pictures include the groom.
In my point of view, the wedding day is supposed to be a day that two people get to finalize a bond as soul mates. It is a chance to proclaim all the love they hold and get to share that day with their dearest friends and family. Personally, I believe it has became something it was never meant to be. It has became a validation of the marriage itself. As if the more extravagant and glamorous the wedding, the truer marriage between the bride and groom. Many people want this huge wedding with thousands of guests to witness their special day. The purpose of this, I’m not exactly sure. I do understand the point that every single person you want to be there, will be. But having an excess amount of people that you are not particularly close with, is pointless to me.
As we all know, planning for a large and over the top wedding can be a very long stressful process. Personally, I’m already a naturally stressed person. Also, I’m a perfectionist. These two don’t go together very well. I would be afraid that I would get too caught up in everything that goes into planning, wanting to make everything perfect, and making sure nothing went wrong. I would be so stressed out about the whole thing, that by the time the day came I would no longer excited about it, I would just want it to be over with. I don’t want to have that attitude on my wedding day. I want to be stressed free and focused on what the day is actually about, my husband.
Let me give you a rundown of everything having to do with my dream wedding. I would love to get proposed to in a meaningful way. Perhaps at the spot of our first date, in a way that it is just us two and the moment that we will always share. I would want to wait no more than six months to have the wedding. It would be on a beach not too far with our immediate family and closest friends. It will very minimalistic and stress free. On the day my mind will solely be on my husband. We will take the money we could’ve spent of this huge wedding, on a beautiful honeymoon shared with just us two. We will make it about us and the love that we have been blessed with, not anything else.
Small weddings create an environment that is pure and special. It makes a moment that will only be know by the select few that were there to witness. It centralizes all the focus on what the whole day is supposed to be about, proclaiming everlasting love with one person. It starts off on a good foot to the start of an amazing marriage, which is essentially what we are all striving for.
Go Big Or Go Home!
By JASREET BRAR
Weddings. Are they really that big of a deal? YES. Your wedding is the biggest day of your life. It’s your day. The day you and your significant other join yourselves and families together for the rest of your life. Having an Indian background, weddings are utterly the most extravagant sometimes year long events to ever occur. Each event is full of vibrant colors, elegant outfits, over the top jewelry, delicious food, and amazing music. If I'm being honest, we party like it’s the end of the world.
Now some might say this is materialistic or simply not about the love two partners share, but that is completely untrue. Each event is a tradition with a hidden meaning beneath it, each event is a tradition being kept alive. Weddings are a celebration of your culture, your heritage, and most importantly, the new life you and your husband or wife to be are about to encounter.
But why have a big celebration instead of a close knit teeny tiny party? Well because your wedding is a BIG deal. This is the one day you're going to remember forever. You want to make the most out of it. The more fun you have, the more the stress will be worth it. And when I say a ‘big’ wedding, I don't mean thousands of guests. I mean grand decor, grand outfits, grand events. Make your wedding like a fairytale because that is what your love should feel like during this special day.
Having a ‘big’ wedding doesn't take away from the love and intimacy of what is happening between two people. After all, there's only TWO people up there on the altar for that special moment. Only TWO people are joined when the official says “You may kiss the bride.” The joy with having a big wedding is that feeling of magic and innocence that is in front of all the people that brought you to this moment are there to witness it. The grandeur and ambiance of two people becoming one is still so personal and meaningful, it doesn't matter how it's being done. Big or small.
So in my opinion, go all out. Buy that Sabyasachi or Vera Wang dress. Book the venue with that twelve tier chandelier. Invite that random person you saw in the grocery store (personally I feel this one’s a little weird but you get my point - go big or go home). Think about the future. Think about the stories you'll tell your kids, and your kids will tell your grandkids. Do the never been done before. Forget life’s reality and just live lavish and freely for a night. Throw the wedding of the century - the rest can come later.
UP FOR DEBATE:
How big is TOO BIG for a wedding size?